Curly Girl Method & Anxiety

So, you’re used to doing your hair a certain way for SO long, probably even decades for some of you. Then you stumble across this curly girl thing.  At first, maybe you brush it off because you either don’t want to risk it in case your hair looks even worse. Or maybe you just think it’s way too much. But then maybe you start getting more curious. What is this CG thing is all about? Could it really work for me?  So you browse through before and afters, and you think,  no way! These girls must just be really lucky and have perfect hair.  But as you see more and more of these transformations,  you think wow! –  Maybe this is an actual thing that works!  Maybe I should try this!


I’m going to be honest here. Being new to CG can be tough.Transition can be very frustrating. And All the new terminology can be overwhelming.


Maybe you second guess yourself. But you decide to make a real effort at this in case it really can improve your hair.


So then you have to go out and buy all new products and completely start from scratch. Create a new routine with new products. 

There got to be a point where I realized my wash day got to be way too much. I had to SLOW DOWN. I had to keep reminding myself that I don’t HAVE to buy all the products I keep hearing about. I don’t HAVE to do all the techniques I keep seeing. I don’t HAVE to make wash day SO MUCH MORE than it used to be pre CG.  I HAD to make wash day enjoyable again!  I never had a holy grail “product”. I had a holy grail “realization”.  And this was it!


These are a few of the things that really helped me: 

  • Be Comfortable – Doing my entire  wash and diffusing upside down was out. Wasn’t worth it to me. It was uncomfortable and I hate getting water in my eyes and nose.
  • Simplify and Modify techniques to make them work for ME.
  • Scents – For me, it’s all about the way my products smell.  I don’t know why I was making myself use products that worked OK, but I just couldn’t stand the smell.  The smell of my hair products was something I used to always look forward to,  like the old herbal essence commercials.
  • Time – Wash days pre CG were 15 minutes total!  Washing, conditioning and styling. That’s it!  So I cut down on all the things I was doing and focused on ones that were making the biggest impact.
  • Reasonable – Just have reasonable expectations,  especially when you’re new. And that bad hair days are normal. 
  • Postpone – If there’s too much going on, instead of forcing myself to go wash my hair,  I just push off wash day
  • Be Aware –  Realizing I am not the only one out there that has anxiety,  and anxiety about my hair. 

As someone with anxiety, learning to navigate all this wasn’t easy. I had no map and I was going in blind.  It was big guessing game,  lots of trial and error. I’m the kind of person like wants to know exactly how to do something before I start,  and have all the information in one place.  I didn’t really have that when I was new. But it is the whole reason I started this website. I wanted to put it all out there, all in one place,  and also simple and easy to follow information. I will do the best I can to make this easy for you.


If you’re new to Curly Girl,  or to my website,  Hi! 

If you also have anxiety,  and/or anxiety about your hair,  I see you! 

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